If I knew you and you knew me,
and each of us could clearly see
by the inner light divine
the meaning of your heart and mine;
I’m sure that we would differ less
and clap our hands in friendliness.
If you knew me and I knew you.
Howard Thurman
Understanding the complexity of human beings takes time, effort, and imagination. One must ‘fool around’ the edges of another’s life getting closer and closer to the central place. There must be a will to understand which informs the integrity of one’s desire to understand. 2022 can be a year we step out and lead the critical conversations that will heal our nation.
The Bible teaches us in Ephesians and Colossians how to accomplish this, “Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building up the one in need and bringing grace to those who listen.” And that, “Your speech must always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.”
The Foundation for Critical Thinking offers, “much of our thinking left to itself, is biased, distorted, partial, uninformed or down-right prejudiced. Yet the quality of the life we produce, make, or build depends precisely on the quality of our thoughts. Shoddy thinking is costly to our spiritual witness. Excellence in thought, however, must be systematically cultivated.”
We naturally think from our own perspective, from a point of view which tends to privilege our position. Fairness implies the treating of all relevant viewpoints alike without reference to one’s own feelings or interest. Because we tend to be biased in favor of our own viewpoint, it is important to keep the standard of fairness at the forefront of our thinking. This is especially important when the situation may call on us to see things we don’t want to see or give something up that we want to hold onto.
Most people do not understand the degree to which they have uncritically internalized the dominant prejudice of their society or culture. Sociologist and anthropologists identify this as the state of being “cultural bound.” This phenomenon is caused by sociocentric thinking, which includes:
Sociocentric thinking is a hallmark of an uncritical society. It can be diminished only when replaced by cross-cultural, fair-minded thinking.
Let’s move into 2022 with a new mind, the mind of Christ. It means we share Jesus’ perspective of humility and obedience (Philippians 2:5-8), compassion (Matthew 9:36), and prayerful dependence on God (Luke 5:16). The believer bears a responsibility to yield to the Spirit’s leading (Ephesians 4:30) and to allow the Spirit to transform and renew our mind (Romans 12:1-2).
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
We are in the season we pause with our family and friends to celebrate the blessings of the past year. We have come through difficult times, and as Christians, we know it is because of the grace of God. Our belief in Jesus Christ and what His Word says has transformed our life. And when we mess up, He has already paid the price, and we are forgiven. His forgiveness is not an excuse to continue sinning. When we slip, He understands. When we practice sin, we must reassess if we really believe in Him and His Word.
“Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities.”
Attachment is the emotional dependence we put in situations, objects, or people. Strong attachments come in many forms—including overindulgence in or pursuit of food and drink, sex, power, control, fame, even principles or ideas—and can manifest in potentially harmful ways.
In our desire to control the external, we may lose control over the internal. The more we want to control things, others, or situations, the angrier we may become when things don’t turn out the way we expected.
Anger is the defeat of expectations. Handling anger properly is a critical life skill for Christians. Anger can cripple communication between two people, rip apart families, and relationships in churches. God’s Word not only teaches how to deal with anger but also how to overcome sinful anger.
Anger can become sinful when it is motivated by pride (James 1:20), when it is unproductive and thus distorts God’s purposes (1 Corinthians 10:31), or when anger is allowed to linger (Ephesians 4:26-27).
One obvious sign that anger has turned to sin is when, instead of attacking the problem at hand, we attack the “perceived” wrongdoer. Ephesians 4:15-19 says we are to speak the truth in love and use our words to build others up, not allow rotten or destructive words to pour from our lips. Unfortunately, this poisonous speech is a common characteristic of fallen man (Romans 3:13-14).
The reason there is a war among us is because there is a war inside us. Our desires for what we define as our pleasures, comforts, and rights have been placed above everything else.
Did we forget, when we suffer for righteousness sake we are blessed. We demonstrate who God is to a watching world when we think about others above ourselves and serving rather than being served. I can hear you saying, yea but “they” are trying to take our freedoms. “They” are trying to control us. “They” are . . . but those aren’t my words, 1 Peter 3:14 tells us, “But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled.”
Instead of holding onto anger, pray for the person who angers you. The key is to convert your anger into love for others because of the grace of God. This is one key where we can change our feelings towards another by doing a loving deed.
It’s the influence of the church that will ensures our witness is effective. Remember, people listen to what we do, not what we say. Let’s not give people reason to stop listening.
Politics, COVID, or democracy all lead to narcissism and feelings of victimhood. Even well-off people fall prey to this disease. We want to believe things are not our fault and the other is the cause of us losing something. Every age has a notion of this being the worst time ever.
The reality is that we are all susceptible to greed, rich and poor alike. Greed arises from man’s fallen nature. But greed is not just financial. This fallen nature impels man to satisfy his desires with the least possible expenditure of effort, which often requires his satisfaction at the expense of others.
Biblical commentator John Ritenbaugh describes greed as a “ruthless self-seeking and an arrogant assumption that others and things exist for one’s own benefit. An accursed love of having, which will pursue its own interests with complete disregard for the rights of others, and even for the considerations of common humanity.”
Author Tom Nichols offers a counterintuitive description, “we are losing because we won. We are suffering because we are successful. We are unhappy because we have what we want.“
The Bible defines it as self-interest at the expense of others and provides us several examples: Satan was expelled from Heaven for wanting to be God. Adam and Eve wanted the knowledge of God. And Cain wanted the love Abel received.
In Romans 1:18b, we see that we are very capable of suppressing what we know to be true:
“Men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth.”
All this led to Jesus coming to demonstrate how to put others first and simply “love God and love your neighbor as yourself.”
Some say the Bible does not condemn the pursuit of self-interest. They point to Scriptures like Philippians 2:4, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” And Matt 6:20, “But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven . . .”
“There is a place for legitimate self-interest, to which the bible periodically appeals, only it must be balanced by a compassionate concern for the interest of others.”
Sadly, many of us in the Christian community have missed the point. We establish rapport exclusively to satisfy our emotional and material needs. We commoditize relationships to further our careers, families, bank accounts, and material possessions and essentially build mutually exclusive affiliations. We use those affiliations to limit who we engage.
American Christians
portraying Christianity
as self-centered individualism
must explain how this integrates with
God’s commandment to love your neighbor.
In the Bible God told us how to represent Him. And how we demonstrate who He is to a watching world. Yet, the deaths and devastation caused by the pandemic has not softened the hearts of some. The cultural clashes across the country have not softened the hearts of others. The stain on the Church for its divisive actions has not softened hearts.
We know only God can change a heart so let me ask you – Why is it that some hearts have been changed and others remain hardened? The theologian Charles Spurgeon said, “the same sun that melts the wax, hardens the clay.”
We don’t get a pass that lets us abdicate our responsibility for a changed heart. God gives us free will to respond or not. Let’s not be a prisoner of the political drama in the Statehouses and the Capital. We should refuse to let these events limit the importance of Biblical relationships.
It’s important to understand that the nature of Biblical relationships is not arbitrary. God has designed them to work in a certain way, and humans only flourish when we experience relationships the way God intended.
Our friends and associates can have a profound influence on us, often in very subtle ways. If we insist on friendships with those who mock what God considers important, we might sin by becoming indifferent to God’s will. This attitude is the same as ridiculing God.
Happy are those who don’t listen to the wicked,
who don’t go where sinners go,
who don’t do what evil people do.
They love the LORD’s teachings,
and they think about those teachings day and night.
They are strong, like a tree planted by a river.
The tree produces fruit in season,
and its leaves don’t die.
Everything they do will succeed.
But wicked people are not like that.
They are like chaff that the wind blows away.
So the wicked will not escape God’s punishment.
Sinners will not worship with God’s people.
This is because the LORD takes care of his people,
but the wicked will be destroyed. Psalms 1:1-6
Psalms extolls the joys of obeying God and refusing to listen to those who discredit or ridicule Him. We must have contact with unbelievers if we are to witness to them, but we must not join in or imitate their sinful behavior. Neither are we to join in or imitate believers who exhibit sinful behavior. The more we allow those who ridicule God to affect our thoughts and attitudes, the more we separate ourselves from our source of nourishment. God is ridiculed through patterns of behavior that are contrary to God’s Word.
When Scripture says, “In all they do, they prosper,” it does not mean immunity to failure or difficulties. Nor is it a guarantee of health, wealth, and happiness. What the Bible means by prosperity is this: When we apply God’s wisdom, the fruit (results or by-products) we bear will be good and receive God’s approval. Just as a tree soaks up water and bears luscious fruit, we also are to soak up God’s Word, producing actions and attitudes that honor God. To achieve anything worthwhile, we must have God’s Word in our hearts.
“Chaff” is the outer shell (or husk) that must be removed to get at the valuable kernels of grain inside. After the plants were cut, they were crushed, and then the pieces were thrown into the air. Chaff is very light and is carried away by even the slightest wind, while the good grain falls back to the earth. Chaff is a symbol of a faithless life that drifts along without direction or giving in to the self-interest that is not of God. Good grain is a symbol of a faithful life that God can use. Unlike grain, however, we can choose the path we will take.
We are driven by what our hearts love most. Hence, the way to a person’s heart is to capture their imaginations (minds), move their emotions (affections), and challenge their actions (wills). While we can play a role in shaping people’s hearts, ultimately, such transformation requires the miraculous work of a sovereign God. And the acceptance by that person.
Sadly, sometimes churches or denominations distinguish too sharply between these features, pitting them against one another in problematic ways. For example, one church values the mind, while another highlights the power of emotions, one community concentrates on stimulating the will to action, another emphasizes emotional self-control. One denomination emphasizes material prosperity, while the other acts as though only souls matter. But we should never pretend that only one aspect of the human person is important. On the contrary, the Bible assumes that all aspects of the human being are essential and deeply integrated, and so should we.
The heart is at the center of personhood and drives behaviors. Your heart drives your response to others and is at the center of God’s commandment:
“You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart,
and with all your soul, and with all your might.
Keep these words that I am commanding you today in your heart” Deuteronomy 6:5-6 (NRSV)
Do you create a narrative about people that belittles them so that you don’t feel obligated to help them? Do you create a story in which your possessions indicate your moral superiority when, in fact, both their story and yours are far more complicated?
What will be key to both is love. And central to this love is discovering the biblical truth that God first loved us, well before we loved Him or deserved His love.
Jesus taught that loving God with all of ourselves is the first and greatest commandment (Mt 22:37-39). This command, combined with the command to love your neighbor (Lev 19:18), encompasses all the other Old Testament laws.
Intimacy in Christ is the relational design to reveal the fullness of His heart in you. Happiness, comfort, prosperity, freewill individualism – these counterfeit forms of intimacy are confusing us to the truth of God’s design. We are called to drop our nets, die daily, take up our cross, crucify our fleshly desires and imitate Jesus’ love.
Is this a place where God is knocking on the door of some closed place in your heart?