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Praying With Anger – Part 1

 

 

“Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities.”

Attachment is the emotional dependence we put in situations, objects, or people. Strong attachments come in many forms—including overindulgence in or pursuit of food and drink, sex, power, control, fame, even principles or ideas—and can manifest in potentially harmful ways.

In our desire to control the external, we may lose control over the internal. The more we want to control things, others, or situations, the angrier we may become when things don’t turn out the way we expected.

Anger is the defeat of expectations. Handling anger properly is a critical life skill for Christians. Anger can cripple communication between two people, rip apart families, and relationships in churches. God’s Word not only teaches how to deal with anger but also how to overcome sinful anger.

Anger can become sinful when it is motivated by pride (James 1:20), when it is unproductive and thus distorts God’s purposes (1 Corinthians 10:31), or when anger is allowed to linger (Ephesians 4:26-27).

One obvious sign that anger has turned to sin is when, instead of attacking the problem at hand, we attack the “perceived” wrongdoer. Ephesians 4:15-19 says we are to speak the truth in love and use our words to build others up, not allow rotten or destructive words to pour from our lips. Unfortunately, this poisonous speech is a common characteristic of fallen man (Romans 3:13-14).

The reason there is a war among us is because there is a war inside us. Our desires for what we define as our pleasures, comforts, and rights have been placed above everything else.

Did we forget, when we suffer for righteousness sake we are blessed. We demonstrate who God is to a watching world when we think about others above ourselves and serving rather than being served. I can hear you saying, yea but “they” are trying to take our freedoms. “They” are trying to control us. “They” are . . . but those aren’t my words, 1 Peter 3:14 tells us, “But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled.”

Instead of holding onto anger, pray for the person who angers you. The key is to convert your anger into love for others because of the grace of God. This is one key where we can change our feelings towards another by doing a loving deed.

It’s the influence of the church that will ensures our witness is effective. Remember, people listen to what we do, not what we say. Let’s not give people reason to stop listening.

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We Believe, Help Our Unbelief

 

This prayer is for everyone whose been calling on the name of the Lord for a fresh touch in their homes, and in their cities. The Bible says, before you call I’ll answer. And while you are speaking I’ll yet hear:

 

Lord, We don’t have much to give, but we want to give you all we have. Jesus, you are the reason we live, still we need your grace and mercy, even as we stop to pray. God we were made by You, we were made for You. And we will only be satisfied in You. We welcome you with open hearts. We cry out to you because you are our hope.

 

In this time of America’s brokenness, we ask for a wave of new anointing, a wave of Your glory, for You to send a fresh wind. We are at our Red Sea, but we know you can part the waters and dry the land. So, shake the generations, tear down the walls, heal the broken hearted, bring restoration by the power of your name. Holy Spirit bring us in.

 

Lord we run to You, no one else will do. You said we would face trouble, pain, and tears but to be of good cheer. You said, there are some lessons we must learn, and the test and trials are only to make us strong. Yet you promised to never leave us alone. So, help us to understand you’re not just the God who saves us. You’re also the God who sustains us.

 

Deliver us from looking other places to find satisfaction. Bring us to a place of true love, one to another. We are open to you because we are your beloved.

 

Now unto Him, who is able to keep us from falling, who is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all that we ask or think. Be merciful to those who doubt. Lord, we believe, help our unbelief.

 

In Jesus name we pray. Amen

 

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A Crisis in Christian Integrity

 

Could you do the right thing if called upon to respond? Stand up to family or friends if you saw them doing something wrong? Risk alienating your friends and family to do what is right when everyone else was being rewarded for going along with the crowd? Would your inner moral compass work if True North suddenly disappeared and the very ground beneath your feet underwent a seismic shift?

 

Some say they understand the fear that grips Christians who refuse to speak out against the divisive madness transpiring in this country, but when we are followers of Christ, our integrity and faith will cause us to stand against division. Will the impulses of violence, racism and intolerance be too strong for our faith to contain? Or will we commit to becoming God’s Revelation 7:9-17 vision – a vibrant, forward-looking multiracial family.

 

We can have different ideas about how the country should deal with its many challenges but not how we view and treat people. We can lose any moral high ground or spiritual authority with a generation through hypocrisy, inconsistency, incredibly selective mercy, and thinly veiled supremacy.

 

These tendencies bring us all dangerously close to those who were “confident of their own righteousness and looked down on everyone else,” leading one of them to pray, in public, “God, I thank you that I am not like other people—extortioners, unjust, adulterers robbers, evildoers, adulterers” (Luke 18:11).

 

You cannot devise your own morals to fit your situation. We’ve been told by popular theologians for some years that “the situation determines morals.” Now we are reaping the bitter fruits of practicing that kind of ethics. If God is, then what God says must be “absolute”—man must have moral boundaries.

 

The Bible tells us that with what judgment we judge, we shall be judged. So we must avoid hypocritical and self-righteous glee at the evil that is being done.

 

Let us hope that by God’s grace, we may turn the corner. Let’s hope we realize that the crisis in Christian integrity is the most serious we can face.

 

Discern the will of God and use wisdom in your words and actions.  

 

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10-33. We’ve Lost The Line

The usage of the police code 10-33 means “Emergency All Units Stand By”. It’s designed to make the communication between police crews easier, faster and clearer. So today, I hope this article helps you clear the noise and filter out the rhetoric that assumes life is a zero sum game. Now more than ever, the Church is needed to demonstrate how to love one another; to love those we may consider to be our enemy, and renew our commitment to be like Jesus.

 

During the Sermon on the Mount, Matthew 5:9, Jesus taught, “You’re blessed when you can show people how to cooperate instead of compete or fight. That’s when you discover who you really are, and your place in God’s family.”
Enjoy.

 

 

Guest Author: William Uray

 

“It is so tempting to blame those
with whom we are in conflict.
Blaming makes us feel innocent.
We get to feel righteous & superior.
And blaming also nicely deflects
any residual guilt we might feel.
We are overlooking whatever part
we may have played in the conflict
and are ignoring our freedom
to choose how to respond.”

 

 

The most difficult person we ever have to deal with in life isn’t who we imagine it to be. It’s not the person on the other side of the table. It’s the person on this side of the table. It’s the person we look at in the mirror every morning. It’s ourselves. The biggest block to our success in life is ourselves. It lies in our very human, very understandable tendency to react: to act without thinking. As Ambrose Bearce once quipped, “When angry, you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” So what’s the alternative?

 

To get a clear perspective, you have to go to the BALCONY in order to see the third side. Imagine you’re negotiating on a stage and part of your mind goes to a mental and emotional balcony, a place of calm, perspective, and self-control where you can stay focused on your interests, keep your eyes on the prize. A place that allows you to see the third side of the situation. Let me give you an example of one of my favorite negotiation stories. It’s the story of a man who left to his three sons 17 camels. To the first son, he left half the camels, to the second son, he left a third of the camels, and to the youngest son, he left a ninth of the camels.

 

The three sons got into a negotiation — 17 doesn’t divide by two. It doesn’t divide by three. It doesn’t divide by nine. Brotherly tempers started to get strained. Finally, in desperation, they went and they consulted a wise old woman. The wise old woman thought about their problem for a long time, and finally she came back and said, “Well, I don’t know if I can help you, but at least, if you want, you can have my camel.”

 

So then, they had 18 camels. The first son took his half — half of 18 is nine. The second son took his third — a third of 18 is six. The youngest son took his ninth — a ninth of 18 is two. Nine plus six plus two adds up to 17. They had one camel left over. They gave it back to the wise old woman.

 

This story is a little bit like many of the negotiations or conflicts we engage in. They seem impossible to resolve and no apparent end in sight. We start off with 17 camels. Somehow we need to step to the balcony, change our assumptions, and find an 18th camel. And if you think that’s hard sometimes, you’re right, but it’s not impossible.

 

The most fundamental way in which the third side can help is to remind you of what’s really at stake – “setting your mind on God’s purposes, not man’s.” What I learned is that one of the greatest powers we have is the power not to react but rather to go to the balcony and keep your eyes on the prize. So that’s the power I wish for you in your life – the power of the balcony.

 

SOURCE: William Ury, The Third Side: Why We Fight and How We Can Stop